am i really that much of a b*tch?

so, i personally hate meeting a guy at a club or a bar.. when someone comes up to me and tries to talk to me and i don't already know him, i automatically think he's some kind of douchebag and show no interest whatsoever [even if he could be the sweetest, nicest guy in the world].  if i meet the same guy outside of the nightlife scene, i would, in fact, give him the opportunity to wow me.  i guess i'm not the only one who feels this way, but sometimes it makes me feel guilty when i pull out the bitch card to some really nice guys..

quite some time ago, i went out with some friends, and was introduced to a guy [one of my girlfriend's friends].  the guy tried to talk to me and dance with me, blah blah blah.. but i showed no interest.. why?  because i'm meeting this guy at a club.

i met the same guy recently, and since the environment was not a club, i actually talked to him and found out he is a really funny, nice guy.  too bad i didn't realize that i met him before until i went back on some old photos and saw a picture of us two together with my friends.  lol

moral of the story: maybe i should stop being a meanie to guys at the club/bar because they could, perhaps, be a guy that i would otherwise be very interested in.  

[i had to throw in this picture of me because people said i look so emo.. lol]

"like the philosopher jagger once said: you can’t always get what you want."

hey y'all.  it's relationship talk time once again.

so, have you ever wanted someone who you couldn't have.. for whatever the reason may be?  maybe the person doesn't even realize of your existence.  maybe the person just doesn't feel attracted to you.  or maybe the person doesn't want to ruin the friendship you two already have.

i'm sure everyone has been in this undoubtedly sucky [for lack of a better term] situation.  i sure have [of course] and let me tell you, it certainly does knock you down a few rungs on the ego ladder. 

so after a breakup or a situation like this, what do you do with those feelings that you have toward the other person?  pick up those little, crawling emotions and put them back in the bottle and cork them up?  easier said than done, as they say.  emotions have a mind of their own.  soon enough, like an imprisoned criminal lusting for freedom, they'll bust out of there and be on the rampage yet again.

so what actually helps?  i don't know.. ignoring that person?  attraction toward another person?  time away from that person?  imo, time is perhaps the greatest remedy for these circumstances.  keep your thoughts occupied with other things.  get a new hobby.  do things that make you happy.  things happen for a reason; get over it.

"'if you can't get what you want, you end up doing something else, just to get some relief."

the return to miami... yet again.

my trip to miami was filled with fun and adventure as always.  i won't go into full details, but i'll note a few memorable moments of the trip:

• ate at the rusty pelican with my love for miami spice
• did the cuban salsa with alex (he was such a great dancer.. thanks for leading!)
• went to a gay bar, twist.. christina made some male dancer dance on me, and it was very uncomfortable.. lol
• went to ft. lauderdale beach (even better than south beach)
• crashed the pool at the ft. lauderdale hyatt resort while waiting for liz and company (beautiful pools!)
• did a running-start jump onto vu's back, causing him to fall face first onto the sidewalk.. he is now nelly (sorry, vu! your bandaids were uber cute though!)
• went back to twist and had some interesting things happen
• frolicked around south beach with the crew
• drank blackberry mojitos at tarpon bend
• made tacos for 9 people and had a fabulous (and filling) taco night
• did bottle service (3 bottles!!!) at mansion nightclub.. totally worth it
• lost my phone at mansion
• went ocean fishing.. didn't catch anything but it was nice and relaxing.. thang caught a barracuda and weina caught a big ass sailfish. good job guys!
• had oysters at tarpon bend and dinner at flanigans
• bar hopped in coconut grove
• breakfast at the carlyle on south beach and drank 2 big ass glasses of mimosa and sweet tea
• got a 1-month temporary tattoo that says, "live. laugh. love."
• ate some delicious sushi
• started the dance party at clevelander with the soultrain
• saw some strippers at madonna's.. and got motorboated.. awesome!
• my layover in newark was canceled and had to catch amtrak back to philly

restaurant month: i l♥ve miami spice.

i love to eat (uh.. who doesn't?!) and it shows.  next week, i will be miami-bound for 5 days to visit christina, and it is incredibly perfect timing.  why?  besides spending some quality time with my bff and the dancefloor, it's MIAMI SPICE, a 2-month summer restaurant promotion that is quite similar to restaurant week, and i CANNOT wait!  *nomnomnom*

miami spice runs from august 1 - september 30 this year and offers a 3-course lunch and dinner meal for $22 and $35, respectively, at the many participating restaurants.  it is the perfect way to sample some of miami's best world-class cuisines without emptying your wallet as you normally would without these fantastic specials.  (heck, i probably wouldn't even go to some of these restaurants because they are so darn expensive - thank goodness for these types of promotions.)  miami has delectable food, and with a wide variety (cuban, asian, american, mediterranean, caribbean, etc..  you name it, they've got it!) i'm sure you'll find something to arouse your tastebuds and satisfy those different cravings.  and i must personally say, it tastes even better when it's cheaper.

two summers ago, i was in miami during miami spice and took advantage of the amazing deals.  i had dinner at emeril's south beach and engorged myself with all the indescribable savors of the steak, duck, and salad that we ordered.  and the dessert was quite scrumptious, as well.  another night, i had a latin craving and decided to try out yuca, located on lincoln road, and it was absolutely orgasmic.  the flavors of the argentinean steak skirt, seasoned rice, grounded potatoes, and fried plantains mingled together so wonderously, i swear they were destined to be together (my mouth is watering just thinking about it!).

for this upcoming miami trip, i have composited a "to-eat" list (yes, really), with my top 5 places (in no particular order) i'd like to go for miami spice this year:

1) the forge restaurant and wine bar (dinner)

2) yuca - yes, again.. mmmmm (dinner)

3) vida at fontainebleau (dinner)

4) tamara at national hotel (lunch)

5) la marea (lunch)

i am absolutely excited for next wednesday to come, not only for miami spice (nomnomnom! i might possibly come back fatter than i already am), but to spend some good quality time with excellent company! ♥ better start making some reservations to these places since it's going to be for a party of 8!